Good evening readers!!! , Welcome back!
So for this blog entry we are talking about Clichés. I think we are all familiar with them and we hear them over and over as we grow older right?.. so here's the question of the night... What is the cliché you heard the most this year? Leave a comment below and let me know! Okay, Let's jump in!
Cliché - a sentence or phrase, usually expressing a popular or common thought or idea, that has lost originality, ingenuity, and impact by long overuse.
So everyone has heard the many clichés out there in the world and if we're honest, sometimes we just aren't in the mood to hear them and just want someone to vent to. Other times, we may want advice but something more "genuine" and "authentic"...not a lousy Cliché. Some examples of the most commonly known Clichés are as follows:
Time heals all wounds.
We’re not laughing at you, we're laughing with you.
In time, you will understand.
Read between the lines.
Beauty is only skin deep.
I believe this topic was relevant to talk about, especially within the intense times we are experiencing today. I think where Clichés are most commonly placed or talked about are within some of the most challenging times we face or within a lot of our life's growing pains. Many different factors play into the moments where we can reach for one of these "sayings" and kind of seal off a conversation...but I question if we use them because they sound perfect on the spot or if we really mean what we are saying.
Another popular Cliché we hear is "Words have power." THIS is the exact Cliché that I would like to use in order to help finish unraveling the purpose of this entry tonight. Ironically, my points may also seem to be just a collective of Clichés but I want you to hear me out (also try to count how many you've actually heard before lol.)
A Different Perspective
When it comes to words, I've noticed that obviously with age and time, you gain new perspectives and revelations about them. In any language, in any part of the world, we communicate with one another using words majority of the time. Not only is our verbal communication a vital component within our interactions with one another but HOW we say what we say and the INTENT behind what we say is just as vital.
When we think about the clichés that are so commonly used, instead of brushing them off or responding in a way that just seems like the right way to respond, how about we absorb.
Absorb - to swallow up the identity or individuality of; incorporate.
Now, with anything in life, we are encouraged to ingest the information we discover as resourceful and get rid of the things that we do not. Words share the same concept. Honestly, as far as my own personal experience in life, clichés have only become resourceful and alive to me when I started paying attention to the words. I know this may seem "extra" but many times after receiving advice from people close to me, not only would I practice active listening but I'd dissect the meanings to the words they were sharing with me both by definition and through context. Let me explain...
Let's Get Personal
For instance, I have a hard time managing my patience. Years ago I expressed that hardship to someone I consider to be a mentor in my life and he gave me a scripture to help encourage me. The scripture was Phillippians 4:6 "Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God."
So I started confessing to God these things that I had on my heart. Cool. From there, I was reminded of the scripture Galations 6:9 "And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not." Okay. Now, not only did I NOT want to hear "be patient" in the thick of my impatience lol BUT what cliché does this scripture remind you of?! For me, it reminded me of "What is meant for you will be yours." (Cue the sound effect 'wamp wamp waammp!)
Like seriously?! this is what I'm being reminded of? I've only heard it a thousand times! UGH.
So anyway, after having a serious internal 'eye roll' moment, I went home and slept. The next few days that went by, all that was on my mind were the scriptures and that annoying cliché. So I decided to do some digging. If you have yet to realize one of life's greatest rules, here's a cheat code.. The best lessons in life are learned through experience.
It took me some time... (actually it took me a couple of years because I was being difficult in receiving my help from the Lord) but I really wanted to understand outside of a surface level mindset. It took a bunch of conversation in prayer, a lot of analyzing other people's behaviors when they activated their patience in certain situations and dare I admit some pretty heart wrenching mistakes for me to come to the place where I had received undoubtedly my revelation. (cue the sound effect 'dun dun duuuunnnn')
Revelation - something revealed or disclosed, especially a striking disclosure, as of something not before realized.
When God blessed me with the very thing He knew my heart desired, is when I overcame and OVER-stood (the opposite of understood) the meanings of the words given to encourage me AND the cliché attached to it!
God blessed me because I was PREPARED to MAINTAIN the blessing. You see, Patience becomes the vehicle that gets you to the blessing God has waiting for you. Patience is a requirement God has in place for us to obtain because HE knows that without it, we will commence in self destruction by trying to get what we want ourselves. In my circumstance, the scriptures given to me aided in cultivating my dependence on God while simultaneously eliminating the pride within myself to dictate what I believed I should have in the time that I wanted it. The cliché acted as a reassurance within my individuality as a human God created with a unique design; HOWEVER; it wasn't so much about what the cliché said plainly, it was about what it professed. The cliché says "What is meant for you will be yours." but what it professed to me concerning the overall context of my situation is "What you are prepared to maintain will be given to you."
When I tell you it hit me like a brick, IT HIT ME LIKE A BRICK!.... Understanding how God operates is so imperative to a lot of how we process our situations too. When the Bible talks about God not giving us more than we can bare, it isn't just a scripture in the bible... IT'S TRUTH. How can God release a blessing into slippery hands that may drop it; or into an ungrateful heart that may not appreciate it; or even into a double minded person who can't function without second guessing if it even came from God or was just luck?! ...That's not how He operates.
Wrapping Up -
Clichés can seem annoying but their is always a deeper meaning to them. We have them for a reason. They're repeated over and over and over again but I DARE YOU to look deeper the next time you are faced with one. Their's a lesson behind every cliché because their is meaning behind every word. Words are powerful. Words. Words. Speaking words. Think about it for a moment. Words. They have the power to set the mood for the day, to change atmospheres in a room, to restore joy by professing positivity, to unlock even greater power by repeating what God has already spoken before. That is why we are warned to watch what comes out of our mouths. (reference Proverbs 18:21 & Ephesians 4:29)
*** If you take nothing else from this blog entry... Take this: Clichés are nothing more than a collaboration of common words expressing a deeper message.